Willing To Feel Better Will Make You Feel Better
So, here’s the thing, friends. You’re going to have some bad days. You’re going to have some days where you want to crawl under a rock and just hide. It’s life. What you should try to understand, however, is that having not so great days is okay. Having feelings of anger, frustration, sadness, etc is perfectly normal. What is not okay, is staying in that place of negativity, stewing in it, and then spreading it to everyone like a disease. Feel your feelings, and allow yourself to process them. Then figure out why you have them so you ultimately can move forward.
I’m sure you’re probably thinking this “sounds” great, but how does one do that, Shari? Well, let me tell ya: by acknowledging what you’re feeling and then (here comes the kicker) being willing to not feel that way; being willing and open to changing those feelings. That might seem obvious or even simple minded, but what so many people get stuck in their emotions because they get stuck in their “story." If someone happens to hurt you, betray you, or anger you, it just adds fuel to your fire for you to talk about every other time in your life this might’ve happened. Things are always going to happen. There will always be people or situations that just don’t turn out as you had hoped. And like I said earlier, it’s okay to feel upset by this, but when you choose to stay in that space of negativity in your mind, then you can expect to stay in that space of negativity in your life. I want you to really think about this for a moment in your heart. Really think about it and even say it aloud. “I am unhappy but I am willing to not be.” “I am angry but I am willing to not be.” “I am willing to see my life differently and this situation differently.” Knowing that you don’t have to feel that way is unbelievably freeing, and life will be much easier to handle. When you are willing to see your life differently, then you invite your life to show up differently.
Here's a challenge: the next time you find yourself caught up in a moment and you see that it’s just going to take you down that slippery slope, remember you can choose to respond with bitterness and a closed mind or you can choose to respond with patience and an open mind. The choice is always yours.