Sandy Hook Mom's Letter To The World
Sunday marks two years since tragedy struck Sandy Hook, CT. Not a day goes by we don't remember the lives taken and affected by the actions of one deeply troubled man on December 14, 2012. As we move forward as a country, people will become stronger and stronger. One mom of a victim wrote this letter and wants you to read it, and listen. It is extremely powerful and will probably warrant a full box of tissues. We love you, Sandy Hook and you will forever be in our hearts.
Below is an excerpt from Nicole Hockley's letter to the world.
"And here's the thing — you didn't have to be that Mom. For all the Moms and Dads reading this now — this doesn't have to be you.
Because every gun-related death is a preventable death.
These are not random acts. You can’t ever say, “This will never happen to me.” It can happen to anyone, at any point, at any place. You have to care enough and be insightful enough to do something before it’s too late.
Taking action to protect children from gun violence can take many forms. For some people that means fighting for policy and political change — that can be a long, frustrating road, and certainly not the only option. Small but meaningful actions create change. If you have five minutes, start a dialogue at the dinner table about gun violence with your kids. If you have two hours, host a conversation with other parents. If you can dedicate one day a month, work with educators on how to better recognize the signs of children who may be troubled and reach out to their parents immediately. But to do nothing? That doesn’t honor the dead and doesn’t protect the living.
One of the most important actions families, schools, employers and communities can do is learn the signs of someone in crisis and then intervene before they hurt themselves or someone else. We need to teach kids better anger management and conflict resolution skills, because much of gun violence stems from anger and fear. Learning other ways to deal with anger and fear rather than striking out at someone is a good first step. We need to recognize the signs on social media— and know the difference between someone who is just angry and someone who poses an imminent threat. Lines of communication always need to remain open between ourselves and our children.
I am beginning to feel some of my old optimism returning, because more and more people are engaging around this issue. Our conversation is gaining momentum. I sense a sea change is coming. I know everything we’re doing at Sandy Hook Promise will protect more children. We’re fighting a good fight.
But after every sort of victory, there’s also a moment of incredible sadness for me, for whatever happens, I know I still can’t bring Dylan back. That hole will never be filled. No matter how many lives get saved in his name, or in the name of others, I can’t go back. But you can go forward and make a difference."
To read the full letter, visit Today.
Images from Today.